There's Creative Fire at the heart of what leads to the Phoenix experience. One has to feel for it to stay close enough to work with it. That's why adventuring with God through the rest that works feels more like walking a wise labyrinth than a straight line. The Fire in the hearth of the heart offers home-making love but also burns the chaff of things like resentments. Edgar Cayce had a saying that I really like about the latter:
"For resentments of any nature bring their fruit in the physical. Not that there should be wholly that of passive resistance, but: THY WILL, O LORD, BE DONE IN AND THROUGH ME AS THOU SEEST I HAVE NEED OF FOR MY SOUL DEVELOPMENT, AND THAT I MAY THROUGH THIS DEVELOPMENT BE THE GREATER CHANNEL OF BLESSING TO MY FELLOW MAN.” Reading 288-37
I think that God is most interested in the growth of souls in love, not egos or comfort. God’s Will includes what gives the best opportunities for soul development for ourselves and others. God might let us or others create experiences that we don’t want, but if so, it will be with a greater goal in mind. It may be to chose to see and do things differently, or it may be in order to help others.
When there is pain in this life, God will ultimately work it towards good, either in this life through the "kin-dom" of heaven or in the afterlife kingdom of heaven (or through interactions between the two as we go. This is why opening to Heavenly Guidance and Love can be very important and amazingly helpful, It can keep our hearts on fire when other things aren't).
The rest that works helps us open to how God may be working things towards good in us and around us. It centers our lives around the Creative Fire of Divine Love. That's one of the reasons it makes such a difference.
More power to you in your adventuring with God through the rest that works. Thanks for journeying together!